Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Just getting started:It can only get better from here!

I have just recently started learning about how the relationships I have had in the past have been toxic! Looking back, I never really chose any of the relationships, They chose me! I never knew about any of this. I had been raised to be loving and trusting! I thought you could take people at "Face Value"! I don't know if that was ever true, But it sure is not true in the world today.  I was 14 years old when the nightmare started. Someone I knew at school had given my phone number to a guy he knew. The guy called me, We talked and he wanted to meet me. I was not at all aware of the nightmare that was about to come. He was at first as normal as anyone else I had ever met. But looking back, He was far from normal. He was very controlling and manipulative. My parents tried everything in their power to put a stop to me spending time with him. When I tried breaking things off with him, he would stalk me and follow me. Back then, in the 70's there were no stalking laws. My parents tried contacting the police because he slept in his car in front of our house at times. He would follow me and somehow manipulate me into feeling sorry for him. He would not go away. I am 54 years old now and I have been through so much, That my memories are vague and details are not all easy to remember. I do remember times that He would take the coil wire off my car and not let me leave. He made comments suggesting he would hurt my parents if they kept me from seeing him.  This went on for five years. I cant even begin to tell that story today, Its a very long story and the fine details really not that important. Looking back at it today, I had no idea that this was just the beginning of what would be a "Lifetime" of abuse and hurt. I was only partly the victim. The reality today is that, I played an active part in this nightmare. By being unaware and as a result of abuse in my childhood, I was the perfect example of what predators and people like that are looking for.


This is just the beginning! I wish I had known about people and how deceiving they can be. This is my first blog. I am just beginning to try to make sense of how I got where I am today. I know that a little bit at a time, One day at a time, I will figure out how to move on. I will have to learn as  I begin to understand myself and all that I have been through in my life was not as accidental as it might seem. I don't know a lot about psychopathy and personality disorders. I only recently started reading and trying to make sense of it all. This is only the very beginning of my story.


Thanks for reading.